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Pole dancing is actually quite impressive when you think about it. The flexibility, upper body strength, and leg muscles that a person has to have to be able to do most of that stuff is incredible. I can see it as a form of self expression when there is no stripping or super slutty moves involved. That’s when I lose respect for it because more women need to realize that you don’t need to take your clothes off or dry hump a metal pole in order to be sexy or appealing.

Oh man okay so it’s nearly midnight and I have to spend tomorrow in the library but I can’t let this just sit in the pole dancing tag unaddressed.

I’ve been pole dancing for coming on two years now. For me, it’s an entertaining way to spend my Wednesday evenings, it’s helped me lose weight and gain strength, and it’s made me a lot more comfortable with my body. It is an art, and for many women who dance, it is a form of self-expression. And now I’m going to say something that will shock you:

Some of those women who dance enjoy sex.

Yes, that’s right. Some of them go out and have sex with men, or women, or both, or anyone not fitting into those categories depending on preference. For some, their sex lives are a crucial part of who they are, and they may choose to express that in their dance. That is how self-expression works. The clue is in the name.

I know it sucks when you tell someone you do pole dancing and they go, “ugh, you’re a stripper?” like you’ve just told them you bathe in the blood of infants. But the correct response is not to say hurriedly, “No, no, I’m not a stripper, eww, what a thought,” because you are feeding right back into the idea that stripping and other sex work is demeaning and beneath contempt, which is the reason people go “eww, pole dancing” in the first place.

Don’t slut-shame. Make the world better for pole dancers, sex workers and sex workers who pole dance.

HI. Just before I sleep.

What Annie said. I am a pole dancer. I use pole dancing as a form of self-expression… with sexy bits and slutty moves. I ain’t tried striping at the same time yet, but only because I’m bad at multitasking and I’m usually laughing too hard in lessons already. You can be sexy without dry humping a pole. You can also be sexy dry humping a pole.

Neither of those are things to be ashamed of. You can be sexy however you damn well please. I like to do it by failing to do impressive pole moves and instead wiggling my bum for a while.

Deal with it.

Topics of conversations when with my parents:

  • My sister
  • My sister’s exams
  • My sister’s exams finishing soon
  • My sister
  • My weight
  • My sister
  • “Transgendered [sic] people are just looking to be offended. The have no right to get offended by the things people call them, they should just deal with it.”
  • My sister
  • “Racism is just about who’s shouting the loudest.” (I point out that we’re white, middle class, cis-gender and really have no right to decide what is and isn’t racist.) “Yeah well, we’re blamed for everything! We should declare ourselves an ethnic minority, because we deserve to be treated right.”

Note: at no point did they ask after me or finals.

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